2016 is starting out pretty amazing. I’m crazy busy, but I won’t
complain. I’m loving life.
Remember that I said that I was
listening to books?
I’ve been on a bit of a C.S. Lewis
binge of late.
In the last few months I’ve “read” The Great Divorce, Mere
Christianity, and The Problem of Pain.
I took a break in between to listen to something a bit less heady, and
just finished The Problem of Pain last week. I feel like I’m secure in the fact that I’m an intelligent
woman, but when I read C.S. Lewis I feel like I know nothing, that I’m never
going to get it. Like he’s
speaking the language of the gods and I am a mere mortal. I was talking to someone about this and
he told me that you have to just realize that every time you read him you’re
going to get something more than you got the last time, and be patient with
yourself. So, I’m working on it.
But, reading The Problem of Pain has totally changed my
life.
I struggle with caring too much about what people think
about me. I think I’m better than
I used to be, but it’s still there.
In a lot of ways I feel that people think that I must have really
screwed up to be in the position that I am. Widowed. I have
let that affect my own thoughts about myself as well.
It seems like there are multiple ways to process grief and
suffering, but the way that I always go is that its all my fault. Since the terrible thing that happened
to me can’t be explained, it must be because of something that I did, or
because I’m a bad person, or at any rate not good enough, and eventually, I get
to, because God doesn’t love me enough.
Part of the “messy spirituality" that I’m known for is that (
as I have said before) I know intellectually that God loves me and wants
what’s best for me, but if he thinks that me being widowed is best for me, then
he’s kind of an asshole.
Even though I hate it, that’s
pretty much been the
way I’ve been relating to him for the last six or so years.
And then I read this:
"We are, not metaphorically, but in very truth, a
Divine work of art, something that God is making, and therefore something with
which He will not be satisfied until it has a certain character. Here again we come up against what I
have called the 'intolerable compliment'. Over a sketch made idly to amuse a
child, an artist may not take much trouble: he may be content to let it go even
though it is not exactly as he meant it to be. But over the great picture of
his life - the work which he loves, though in a different fashion, as intensely
as a man loves a woman or a mother a child - he will take endless trouble - and
would, doubtless, thereby give endless trouble to the picture if it were
sentient [the ability to feel and to have subjective experiences]. One can
imagine a sentient picture, after being rubbed and scraped and recommenced for
the tenth time, wishing that it were only a thumbnail sketch whose making was
over in a minute. In the same way, it is natural for us to wish that God had
designed for us a less glorious and less arduous destiny; but then we are
wishing not for more love but for less." - C.S. Lewis, The Problem of
Pain.
Hmm. He really
loves me after all. Talk about a
paradigm shift.
