I get hits from Google regularly about “Widow Care Package.” I’ve gotten enough that I thought I should address it. I have sent a care package, with items that I remembered being a comfort in the beginning, and then I also keep a running list in my head of what I wish I would have put in there, too. Here are some ideas:
A gift card to her favorite clothing store. I didn’t want to wear or even see anything that had any memory attached to it. I wanted to completely start over with my clothes.
Panties. See above. Especially underwear.
Mercy Me ’10.’ It’s the only “safe” CD that I could listen to for a good year and a half. Track 10 is called “Homesick” and is the best song for widows I’ve ever heard.
Small packs of Puffs facial tissue. I can only find them at Walgreens. They’re better than the Kleenex kind, which are rougher, and I always have them in my purse. I’m always “packin’.”
A hot water bottle. My feet get cold at night. I used to put them on Sawan to warm them up, and he always let me. Using the hot water bottle eases the pain a little bit. I’ve heard other widows say this same thing.
Dare to Repair. This book has great info for women on how to fix just about anything in a house!
I also think that in the first month I only consumed a total of about 1000 calories a week. I just wasn’t interested in eating. So, maybe some snacks? Like nuts?
As far as books on grieving to put in your care package, I’m afraid I can’t be of much help, I tried pretty hard, but didn’t really like any of them (or get through them, actually), except Anne Lamott’s “Traveling Mercies,” which isn’t even really about grief, it just has some short stories about grief added in there.
This is just what I could think of. What other suggestions would you have?